Paul dobransky mens psychology on relationships
Dobransky works with AI and machine learning models and algorithms for analyzing romance, dating, relationships (human courtship), the development of character.
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Everyone talks about narcissism, often surrounding behaviors that offend or violate them. Popular speakers on the subject advise us to go "no contact" with narcissists. There are additional directions to take with narcissists via the anatomy of boundaries, our shields against stress, and our tank of psychological resources.
Drawing on the work of Stiles, et.
How do we fall in love?al. (2009), we can get more sophisticated against narcissism by learning to use what I term "boundary holes, walls, and doors" in my book The Secret Psychology of How We Fall In Love. These constructs are not official and are of my own design.
The Boundary as a Shield and "Tank"
Source: Paul Dobransky MD, (c) 1999
The Boundary as a "Shield" and a "Tank"
In my diagram, you may see how our boundary works as a shield that protects us from stress.
This emotion arises from interactions with others and impinges on our boundaries. Add even more intensity and malicious intent to "stress," and you get narcissistic abuse, who